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Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Turning Education on it's big fat head!

Consider, finally, the case of education. Seymour Papert, known for his work on artificial intelligence, began one of his books by inviting us to imagine a group of surgeons and a group of teachers, both from a century ago, who are magically transported to the present day.
The surgeons visit a modern operating room and struggle to understand what’s going on, but the teachers feel right at home in today’s schools. Kids, they discover, are still segregated by age in rows of classrooms; are still made to sit passively and listen (or practice skills) most of the time; are still tested and graded, rewarded or punished; still set against one another in contests and deprived of any real say about what they’re doing.
Those tempted to point defensively to updates in the delivery system only end up underscoring how education is still about delivering knowledge to empty receptacles. In fact, snazzier technology -- say, posting grades or homework assignments on-line -- mostly serves to distract us from rethinking the pedagogy. Interactive whiteboards in classrooms amount to a 21st-century veneer on old-fashioned, teacher-centered instruction.
Even before the implementation of what should be called the Many Children Left Behind Act, states and school districts were busy standardizing curricula, imposing more and more tests, and using an array of rewards and punishments to pressure teachers and students to fall in line -- with the most extreme version of this effort reserved for the inner cities.
Here’s what would be new: Questioning all the stuff that Papert’s early-20th-century visitors would immediately recognize: a regimen of memorizing facts and practicing skills that features lectures, worksheets, quizzes, report cards, and homework.
(Above by Alphie Kohn)
Instead school’s would best educate their students and prepare them for the future using a constructivist approach to learning. These are the five central tenets of constructivism –

  • First, constructivist teachers seek and value students' points of view. Knowing what students think about concepts helps teachers formulate classroom lessons and differentiate instruction on the basis of students' needs and interests.
  • Second, constructivist teachers structure lessons to challenge students' suppositions. All students, whether they are 6 or 16 or 60, come to the classroom with life experiences that shape their views about how their worlds work. When educators permit students to construct knowledge that challenges their current suppositions, learning occurs. Only through asking students what they think they know and why they think they know it are we and they able to confront their suppositions.
  • Third, constructivist teachers recognize that students must attach relevance to the curriculum. As students see relevance in their daily activities, their interest in learning grows.
  • Fourth, constructivist teachers structure lessons around big ideas, not small bits of information. Exposing students to wholes first helps them determine the relevant parts as they refine their understandings of the wholes.
  • Finally, constructivist teachers assess student learning in the context of daily classroom investigations, not as separate events. Students demonstrate their knowledge every day in a variety of ways. Defining understanding as only that which is capable of being measured by paper-and-pencil assessments administered under strict security perpetuates false and counterproductive myths about academia, intelligence, creativity, accountability, and knowledge.
(from http://www.ascd.org/publications/educational-leadership/nov99/vol57/num03/The-Courage-to-Be-Constructivist.aspx)

And this….this is what the school I am trying to get the boys into is all about. I want it so bad I can taste it. Please, fate of the universe, Gods, Goddesses, All the powers that be in the universe…..Please let both of my children to get into this amazing school.  

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

The Kids (and I) are Alright!

Geez. After my last post, I probably left my readers a bit concerned! I'm still here. Just busy and trying to focus on the positive.

We took younger son, James off the stimulants as well. He had lost 9 pounds in a mere 3 months! So we put him on the Intuniv too. He really did well with it, just the starting dose of 1 mg worked great for him at school, so that's where we kept the dose. School is saying he's still doing really well. Only slight issue is that he's tired in the afternoon, but his teacher is really great about it and just kinda meets him where he's at.

At home, we're continuing to have a real problem with the whining and crying over every little frustration and disappointment. The fact that he does not do it at school tells me he must have control over this, so we're working really hard at it; Ignoring him (the old "I can't hear you when you're talking like that") and reminding him that he's working on using his words. Honestly, I'm not seeing any results with that. It's frustrating and frankly, annoying.

I think it's really difficult for him in that he really struggles at school. Academically, he is average, but fine motor skills are such a challenge for him that I believe it takes a lot out of him to complete all the schoolwork and then come home and do homework. He's just done. They do so many work sheets at that school. It's ridiculous.

I am trying to get both boys into a new charter school in the next town over. They have a "whole child" approach and much more hands-on learning. I believe that would help both Blake and James. I don't think most schools are teaching kids the way they learn best. Children should develop a love of learning, so that they'll want to be life-long learners. They should have a personal investment in their learning.

In today's society, with all of our technological developments, kids no longer need to be "filled up with facts". They need to learn how to learn. How to think critically. How to question, investigate, test theories, collaborate and connect to their world.

I am very excited about this school and am hoping with all my heart that both boys can attend next year. The even better news is that it goes all the way up to the 8th grade!

Blake is doing pretty good. He's gained about 8 pounds and looks truly healthy. He's still oppositional much of the time, but the frequency and intensity of his violent tantrums have decreased probably about 75%. I'll definitely take that.

So, we're hanging in there. I'm still slightly in "catch my breath" mode, but I'm content. My kids are alright for right now. My marriage is good. I'm getting healthy again by exercising and eating right and I have hope for the future.

Life is OK and I'm good with OK!

Sunday, January 16, 2011

I quit

I quit. I am done. Mercy. Hello? Hello? I am even too tired to even go into details, but the past 2 days have been more difficult than anything in the past year. Ready to tag the next team and there is no one waiting to take my place. More soon....

Monday, January 10, 2011

Doing Better!

I've been a bit negligent about keeping up with my blog. Things here are really going well. Blake is doing great both at home at at school. He is totally off the stimulants and just on the Intuniv and I am so pleased with how things have been going.

It's still not perfect, of course, he is still often oppositional and negative, but it's really so much better. He will do something he doesn't w ant to do without too much of a fight. He doesn't complain as much. He is exponentially better than he was just a month ago.

Having Blake happier has had a beautiful trickle down effect on the whole family. We feel more relaxed and have more fun with him, so we want to spend time with him. Just last night my husband took Blake out to "Phillipe's", a restaurant famous for it's sandwiches and featured on "Man Vs. Food" (One of Blake's favorite TV shows). Then they went to a Laker's game. My husband said they had an incredible time and Blake was so nice to be with the whole night.

I have cancelled the behaviorist for now. It's outrageously expensive and not really needed at this time. I am very hopeful that things will continue to get better.....

What we really need to do at this point, is to spend some time and energy on our younger son. He started stimulants in October, but I am still not entirely happy with his results. His focus is better, the hyperactivity is better, but his listening is not at all better, and his emotional reactions are worse. I know some of it may be the middle child thing, especially with his older brother taking up so much of us in the past. he is also only 6, so it's hard to say how much of this might be a maturity thing too.....

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Treading Water

Things with Blake continue to improve. He is certainly less aggressive and less likely to throw a tantrum. He isn't over the top hyper. He is eating well and sleeping great. The only remaining issue is his persistent negativity and oppositional attitude. That's a tough one because even with everything else so much better, the negativity is very draining on us all.

It's sad to say this, but he's really hard to like much of the time. It's like having Stalin in my house. Our own little dictator. I know that engaging him when he is arguing isn't the right thing to do, but it's so difficult not to. it's not like I can ignore him or say "Asked and answered. I'm done discussing it." and he'll just give up. No, no, no. I'm not sure "give up" is in his personality.

Some people have pointed out that the personality trait of being persistent is one that will help you in life. And I really hope with all my heart that it does work to his benefit someday...but right now, it's really tough to see that silver lining.

Christmas was fun. The kids were happy with everything and we had a really nice day with family. I am excited for January 1st. It's my 37th birthday and I am throwing a champagne tasting party. It's been a lot of fun to put together and I am really looking forward to it! No children, no worries for a night. Just yummy bubbly drinks, music, fun and laughter. Just what the doctor ordered.

Friday, December 24, 2010

One week now of no ADHD meds

I think it's better. I don't see the wild look in his eyes anymore and I am seeing more personality in the last 2 days, less aggression and dare I say it...more cooperation. He is still on the Intuniv, which we increased from 2 mg to 3 mg last Monday. Monday and Tuesday, he took a nap in the afternoon, so I was not happy that the med was apparently making him tired, but it was only those 2 days and he's been fine since.

I have no idea how things will be for him when he goes back to school. But, frankly if he is less aggressive, has more personality and doesn't have to deal with the cruddy side effects of those stimulants....then I don't care if he is wiggly, talkative and impulsive. He is lucky to be so bright and I am confidant that his smarts will help to compensate for his lack of focus.

The children's crisis responsive team came out this week and talked with us. They were helpful, and said they thought we were on the right path by having him evaluated by UCLA (not until June 2011, but still....we have an appointment!) and also agreed that having a behaviorist come into the home to work with Blake and with us would be very helpful. I have contacted someone that was recommended and hope to hear back from her next week.

Tomorrow is Christmas and I am always a little sad at Christmas time. My dad died in a car accident when I was 12 years old and it was 2 months before Christmas. I still remember that empty and lonely feeling all those years ago and it always comes back a little bit this time of year.

But it is nice to have hope and to have the love of my family. I am really a very fortunate person to have those things. Blake is doing well. James is providing the comic relief when needed and Baby L reminds us that love is really all you need.

Merry Christmas!

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Day 2 of no ADHD Meds

Not so great here. There have been many, many "fires" to put out with Blake. It seems as soon as we deal with one, another crops up. Just this morning he went into a rage because we told him he needed to take a shower. Then another rage because I said he had to write a (short) letter of apology to his dad from his raging tantrum last night. Then after the shower he lost it again when he discovered that I had cleaned up his toy guns last night and taken them away (as I had said I would if they were left out again.)

I know that we can prevent tantrums from happening if we just allow Blake to rule his world and have no boundaries, but that wouldn't be healthy for anyone. I believe we set the rules and boundaries with love and compassion and frequently allow Blake to collaborate with us when we have an issue. When possible, I allow him to have a voice. But sometimes, something needs to get done or a rule is broken or he doesn't hold up his end of the deal and that's when things go south.

Another thing that's been really tough is my husband. He really has come a long way in his parenting and can often talk with Blake and diffuse a situation. But when it doesn't work out, he gets really frustrated and angry. Then I get angry at him for that and he's angry at me for blaming him, and there's just a whole lot of blame and guilt and bad feelings. I could never do this alone. I truly appreciate my husband and know he loves our son tremendously. But it's not easy to do this with someone either......