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Sunday, December 19, 2010

Day 2 of no ADHD Meds

Not so great here. There have been many, many "fires" to put out with Blake. It seems as soon as we deal with one, another crops up. Just this morning he went into a rage because we told him he needed to take a shower. Then another rage because I said he had to write a (short) letter of apology to his dad from his raging tantrum last night. Then after the shower he lost it again when he discovered that I had cleaned up his toy guns last night and taken them away (as I had said I would if they were left out again.)

I know that we can prevent tantrums from happening if we just allow Blake to rule his world and have no boundaries, but that wouldn't be healthy for anyone. I believe we set the rules and boundaries with love and compassion and frequently allow Blake to collaborate with us when we have an issue. When possible, I allow him to have a voice. But sometimes, something needs to get done or a rule is broken or he doesn't hold up his end of the deal and that's when things go south.

Another thing that's been really tough is my husband. He really has come a long way in his parenting and can often talk with Blake and diffuse a situation. But when it doesn't work out, he gets really frustrated and angry. Then I get angry at him for that and he's angry at me for blaming him, and there's just a whole lot of blame and guilt and bad feelings. I could never do this alone. I truly appreciate my husband and know he loves our son tremendously. But it's not easy to do this with someone either......

2 comments:

  1. I can so relate to the dictator analogy. We have one, too. He wasn't always like this, though. He was the happiest baby and toddler, always smiling. Some days, I just wonder: what happened?

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  2. My son too! He was such a wonderful baby and toddler and then around 3 years old, he became super challenging. Interesting that you experienced the same.

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